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I’m sorry you’re feeling bad. I think you should get involved in something amazing that you’ve always wanted to do. Be bold! You’ll feel excited, and proud of yourself, and gain confidence…. You’ll feel strong enough to handle whatever happens with your best friend…. And you’ll probably make some new friends too. (BTW, I recommend chasing squirrels for your new activity)
The Inside Story on Friendship Problems
The truth is, we can’t control other people. We can’t make them like us or want to hang out with us. And we can’t know what’s in their minds.
So if a friend pulls away from you, trying to change yourself because you think it will make them like you more doesn’t work.The only thing you can be is yourself. #DearMishu Click To Tweet
In Evie’s situation, talking to the friend and asking why they are pulling away can help. But before you do that, you need to make sure you feel strong enough to hear the answer.
By that I mean: it may not be wise to open up a conversation about your worries if you don’t feel ready for any answer. What if your friend says that she’s found a different friend who she has more in common with? That happens, and it is a natural part of life, but it can be really painful to hear.
Before you do that, I think you should build yourself up. Get involved in something amazing that you’ve always wanted to do. Be bold! You’ll feel excited, and proud of yourself, and gain confidence. This will make it easier to hear what your best friend has to say. You’ll also probably make new friends, so however things turn out with your best friend, you’ll be in great shape!